How do I deal with my partner’s feelings when they eclipse my own?

Dear Bear: My wife cries.  A lot.  It seems that whenever there’s some stress in her life or especially if we are having an argument, she breaks down and cries and then asks for immediate emotional support (and if I don’t or can’t provide it, she goes into downright emotional meltdown mode).  We have been to therapy over this and I am trying to be more accepting of her crying and more ok with the fact that it is normal and even healthy for people to cry.  But it’s to the point ...
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Someone told my friend to ask for what she wants. How do I tell her it’s too much?

Dear Bear, I have a friend who has been in therapy for a while, which is really good because she needed it. She's always struggled with depression and sometimes even suicide after awful family bullshit. In therapy she is being encouraged to express herself and ask for what she wants. She told me her therapist said she needs to take the wheel and drive, not just sit in the back and hope. Which is great, in theory. But in practice she is kind of heedless and thoughtless of what else is ...
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I have a big crush on a good friend I do a lot of important activism with. Should I tell them so?

Dear Bear, I do a lot of activist work with someone I have developed a rather gigantic crush on. We're close friends by now which is amazing, and our projects have had a lot of success, which is also really rewarding. We are both married to other people, lovely people. My person would be fine with us starting up A Thing of some kind, my crush's relationship seems to allow for the possibility so no cheating would have to occur. There has been a lot of flirting, or at least conversation that ...
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I’m in a pattern with my partner that’s totally one-sided. What should I do?

Dear Bear, I've been married for a long time, and I have a sex problem. We only have sex that involves me pleasuring her, and then... nothing (sometimes she rubs my feet). After asking suggesting scenarios where she might pleasure me, trying to be patient (16 years worth of patient), I don't know what else I could try. Then I asked her if I could find another partner. But where does a very fat, 70yo woman with a bad cough and not a lot of money find a lover? I’m terrified of getting caught ...
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Can Asexuals be part of Pride? Who decides?

Dear Bear, In high school, after years of confusion and fear, I was relieved to discover I was asexual! My life quickly became surrounded with powerful, strong queer and trans peers and elders, and I grew to celebrate my identity as the president of my high school GSA. I'm now 23 and work for an LGBT non-profit and am part of a queer arts collective. Although my friends and workplace support me, I've noticed a change in the last year where many people no longer believe asexuals should be ...
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