November 2019

My home is unsafe for me to explore my gender. What do I do?

Content note: this question contains short but intense descriptions of emotional abuse by parents. Dear Bear,  A year and a half ago everything seemed to click into place, and I realized how much I hated she/her pronouns and words associated with femininity directed at me. I also remembered how as a child I dreamed of being a dad, rather than a mother, and how jealous of boys I was when I learned what the physical difference between us was. This started me on a journey of self ...
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How do I manage a friend break-up in a small community?

Dear Bear,Is there a way to deal with a friend break-up if the friend just slowly but completely excludes you from their life instead of acknowledging something hurt them and discussing it? I don't know what's going on. This person has not responded to three different attempts (text, email, phone message) to talk about whatever their issue is and I legitimately cannot think of anything. Also there's a shared community involved and it's not a big community and we both work on events within this ...
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We like each other, but is that enough?

Hi Bear!I've known I was bi since I was 16 and fell in love with a girl who was strictly straight and conservative which did not end well, but hey it was life experience despite how hard it was. But because of that, I've been very careful about my heart and who I can open up to. I am 19 and finished my first year of college recently but my friends were extremely pushy about me losing my virginity. One girl in particular was very adamant and took me to get lingerie and bought condoms and all ...
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How do I deal with my friend doing something I think is immoral?

Dear Bear, When we first met, my close friend (we'll call her Enid for privacy) had recently been cheated on and dumped by her boyfriend of four years. She was going through a lot of heartbreak and self esteem issues at that time, so she was kind of sleeping around. A few months later, she was diagnosed with genital herpes. My heart broke for her when she told me, and I was as supportive as I could be. I remember her telling me that when she got the news, her doctor told her she had to ...
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