October 2016

SHOULD I TELL MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY I’M POLY?

Dear Bear, I have started a great new-ish relationship. It’s sweet and hot and exciting and all the good things and I feel really good about it. However, I am resisting telling people about it and/or reluctant to discuss it even though I’m happy because I am in a relationship with two people who are married to each other. We’re a triad or a trio or whatever one might choose to call it. I didn’t know I was polyamorous necessarily, but this thing happened and it feels right. But ...
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HOW DO I GET MY SEXIST BOSS TO APOLOGIZE?

Dear Bear, My boss said something so stupid and sexist and actually really rapey the other day, again, and I called him on it right there in the meeting. He said, “I’m sorry if you were offended.” He seems to think that’s an apology and doesn’t understand why I and a bunch of the other people in the office are still really pissed about it. He pulled me aside and said “I apologized, tell them to let it go.” I don’t think he really did apologize, and I think maybe if he did ...
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