September 2016

MY BOYFRIEND HATES LEAVING THE HOUSE

Dear Bear, Is “this just isn’t enough fun for me” a legit reason to leave somebody?  My partner and I have been together a few years and this relationship stressor continues to come up.  He likes TV and movies.  While I enjoy a (literal) Netflix and chill as much as the next guy, I also like water parks, stargazing, road trips, and days in the lake.  I have other friends and can usually rally other people to do these things, but I’d like him to have fun with me, too.  He’s ...
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I THINK MY FRIEND IS IN A DOWNWARD SPIRAL. HOW DO I HELP HER?

Dear Bear, I think my good friend (we can call her “Molly”) is in trouble and I’m not sure what to do or how to help her. Recently she has been drunk (I think, maybe on some other drugs but acting in a way that makes me think “wasted”) a lot, missing class, and being really flaky about meeting up when we have plans or texting back. I’ve tried to talk to her about things but she keeps saying everything’s fine and I’m overreacting like I always do. It’s true that of our ...
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