July 2016

OH NO! I’M LOSING INTEREST IN MY PARTNER

Dear Bear, I am in a relationship and I can’t tell if it is struggling or if I am self-sabotaging. There are two major factors: multiple stressful life events and my own lack of emotional depth and/or emotional self-awareness. I am not very self-aware in relationships and I see the good in anyone. I am someone who likes having roommates since I like most people and can accommodate others while also communicating my own needs. Relationships work similarly. But I lose interest quickly. ...
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I’M A QUEER FEMME WOMAN—CAN I CALL MYSELF “PAPA”?

Dear Bear, I am pregnant! It's so marvelous. I'm a femme-identified ciswoman and I'm married to a somewhat butchier ciswoman who is THE greatest human who has ever lived. She is so loving to the cats and so patient with me.  And she's so good at closing jars and refilling my prenatals and using I-statements and her vocabulary! I can't even.  I am a great breadwinner, and a great money spender, and really what I want is to be a great papa. I want my wife to be the primary parent and I want ...
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