May 2016

MY FAMILY IS TRYING TO GUILT ME INTO TALKING TO MY ABUSIVE DAD

Dear Bear, How in the world do I deal with my family's disapproval surrounding me no longer having a relationship, through my own choice, with my terribly abusive dad? I am 23 years old. I have a mom and a younger sister. All three of us were subjected to my dad's abuse, my mom most severely—she dealt with the awfulness of typical physical spousal abuse as well as the emotional side. She left us with him when I was 9 and my sister was 6, meaning that we lived with him during the week ...
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WHAT IF MY RELATIONSHIP HAS AN EXPIRATION DATE?

Dear Bear, I have been seeing a man for about 7 months. I got out of a (5 year) long-term relationship about two months before I met this man. Many people view our relationship as a “rebound” relationship, and at first, I did too. But obviously I have some very strong feelings. The problem is that he is an international student and will be returning to his home country when his program is completed in two years, and my program has only about a year, maybe a year and a half to go. As ...
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