December 2015

IS IT OKAY TO BE SO, SO SAD ABOUT MY MISCARRIAGE?

Dear Bear, I’m a good feminist. I know that at eight weeks of gestation a pregnancy does not yet mean a baby, and I absolutely would support a person’s right to choose abortion at that point (or at any point, really). But I was personally just pregnant, and I miscarried at eight weeks and feel really sad. How can I recognize my grief and process that but also stand by my pro-choice values? I keep thinking, “I lost a baby,” even though I know eight weeks is actually about a sesame ...
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I HATE HOW MY FAMILY CELEBRATES THE HOLIDAYS

Dear Bear, Maybe this is too small a problem for your column, but here goes: I hate the holidays. It’s the gift-giving specifically that I hate so very much. Hates it we does. I don’t really like stuff. I try to have as little of it as possible in my life, and my entire family LOVES stuff. They love it so much that they buy stuff to keep their stuff in and spend recreation time on missions to acquire more stuff. I literally beg them to stop buying me things and they won’t. I tell ...
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