I’m in a pattern with my partner that’s totally one-sided. What should I do?

Dear Bear, I've been married for a long time, and I have a sex problem. We only have sex that involves me pleasuring her, and then... nothing (sometimes she rubs my feet). After asking suggesting scenarios where she might pleasure me, trying to be patient (16 years worth of patient), I don't know what else I could try. Then I asked her if I could find another partner. But where does a very fat, 70yo woman with a bad cough and not a lot of money find a lover? I’m terrified of getting caught ...
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Can Asexuals be part of Pride? Who decides?

Dear Bear, In high school, after years of confusion and fear, I was relieved to discover I was asexual! My life quickly became surrounded with powerful, strong queer and trans peers and elders, and I grew to celebrate my identity as the president of my high school GSA. I'm now 23 and work for an LGBT non-profit and am part of a queer arts collective. Although my friends and workplace support me, I've noticed a change in the last year where many people no longer believe asexuals should be ...
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Why does it feel like nothing is working, and what do I do about it?

Dear Bear, I'm just stuck. None of the ways I usually manage things are working, some because the new government is awful and some because of other people and some probably because of me. But it just feels like everything is covered in molasses and occasionally some shit blows up but I don't know WHY or what to do. I can't figure out how to learn new ways of doing things without just making a whole lot of mistakes and probably costing myself and other people time and money and hard feelings. ...
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Do I have to attend the funeral of the one relative I liked in my awful family?

Dear Bear, My uncle has just died and that's very sad for me. We liked each other a lot and often spent the hard parts of family gatherings doing chores and escaping from our other relatives which neither of us ever liked very much. I think from many clues he dropped that he was actually gay and closeted but never came out during his life. I am gay and out and my family strongly disapproves. Anyway, his funeral is definitely going to be awful. It will be a lot of people I don't like ...
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YAY 2018? EXCEPT I AM NOT FULL OF YAY, OR ANYTHING EXCEPT WTF.

Dear Bear, It’s about to be New Year’s Eve, and everyone is posting their #instagrambest9 and making resolutions and so forth and I mostly want to hide under my bed. The world is a shit fire, I’ve had a really hard year personally, and also things have been SO BAD for SO LONG. Companies rob us blind. Elections are rigged (have a look at that gerrymandering map of North Carolina if you don’t believe me). And then personal stuff too, like my mother has cancer. It’s exhausting ...
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